by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
"The most important thing is to have a man respect me!" Ellie proclaimed.
"Do you want a man to cherish your feelings?" I asked.
"Of course. I want that too," Ellie added.
"Fine. Stay single and take two lovers."
If you want to be respected and feel cherished in a romantic relationship, you'll need two partners.
One can respect your ideas and follow your lead. The other can cherish your feelings and make the plans.
See? You can have it all.
Just not at the same time.
Or with the same person.
(Unless he's a "doormat" who doesn't have a voice. Or is soooo spineless. Ewww.)
In a romantic relationship, the greatest intimacy is promoted when one partner feels cherished for feelings and the other is respected for thoughts.
If you want to be respected for your thinking AND cherished for your feelings, there is simply no space for another person.
When you Voluntarily give up your respectability in a romantic relationship it means you choose to have your feelings cherished over your thoughts respected and you are willing to follow your man as long as he's moral, ethical and legal.
This doesn't mean you can't be respected for your thoughts Ever...it just means you choose to have your feelings cherished first.
When a man cherishes your feelings, you'll actually feel respected.
(Think about that for a moment!)
When you don't feel good about something and you share your feelings with your man...and he "respects" your feelings...he's actually cherishing you! (Pretty cool, huh?)
When you give your thoughts to a man and he respects your ideas, guess what? You're the man! When a man respects what you think and want...you are the "Hero" of your relationship.
Many times you go competitive with your partner and you don't know why. The reason is because you both want to tell each other what to do...or you both wait for the other person to make the plan!
So when you're meeting a new man...or if you're already with someone...decide:
Do you want to be respected for your thoughts and leadership skills in your romantic relationship?
OR:
Do you want to be cherished for your feelings and are willing to voluntarily give up your lead and follow your respected partner?
If you want to learn exactly what to say and do to have a man cherish you (and know how to artfully guide him) in your romantic relationship...
Order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course today!
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Monday, January 12, 2009
Do You Keep Him or Delete Him?
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
You didn't hear from him on Christmas. Do you keep him or delete him?
You heard from him on New Year's but since he hadn't called for two weeks you had already deleted him. Then he sends you a "Happy New Year" text. Now what?
You've known each other for a while but the connection between you has shifted. It just doesn't feel the same. Keep him or delete him?
How do you know when someone is worth keeping and when they are not?
Well, it depends on you. And the role you play in the relationship.
If you really clicked when you got together and he didn't call you on Christmas (especially if you just met) - Keep Him. Don't delete him. Not yet anyway!
He doesn't think like you during the holidays. For him, Christmas is just another day. If he's going to call you, he will call you. When he wants to. In his time.
Your role is to be Patient.
Wait for his call. Keep dating others.
Now if you are impatient and delete him because he didn't call when you wanted him to... When, after two weeks, you were hurt and furious and hit delete to show him... And then he texts "Happy New Year" (like nothing's happened!) Now what?
You keep him! He's just being a man. And a man won't do it your way. He will do it his way. In his time.
Your role is to be Accepting.
Text him back to say "Thank you." Chill out and keep dating others.
If you've known each other for a while and in the beginning it was great because you clicked in so many ways, then over time you find yourself drifting apart with different interests and different friends, and you just don't feel the same...do you keep him or delete him?
(Whew. That's a tough one.)
The general rule in relationships is unless you're getting physically sick, stay until it's over. Because if it's not really over, you'll find yourself in the same situation with someone else!
To know if you need to keep him or delete him ask yourself these questions:
Is this relationship resourceful? Does it serve me? Do I feel good? Am I having fun? Can we communicate?
Or does this relationship deplete me? Am I exhausted? Do I feel spent? Or dumped on? Or unimportant?
You'll know the answer. You'll know whether to keep him or delete him because...
Your primary role in every relationship is to be Self Loving.
Always.
To Your Love Life in the New Year!
If you're ready to Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship...Order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course today!
You didn't hear from him on Christmas. Do you keep him or delete him?
You heard from him on New Year's but since he hadn't called for two weeks you had already deleted him. Then he sends you a "Happy New Year" text. Now what?
You've known each other for a while but the connection between you has shifted. It just doesn't feel the same. Keep him or delete him?
How do you know when someone is worth keeping and when they are not?
Well, it depends on you. And the role you play in the relationship.
If you really clicked when you got together and he didn't call you on Christmas (especially if you just met) - Keep Him. Don't delete him. Not yet anyway!
He doesn't think like you during the holidays. For him, Christmas is just another day. If he's going to call you, he will call you. When he wants to. In his time.
Your role is to be Patient.
Wait for his call. Keep dating others.
Now if you are impatient and delete him because he didn't call when you wanted him to... When, after two weeks, you were hurt and furious and hit delete to show him... And then he texts "Happy New Year" (like nothing's happened!) Now what?
You keep him! He's just being a man. And a man won't do it your way. He will do it his way. In his time.
Your role is to be Accepting.
Text him back to say "Thank you." Chill out and keep dating others.
If you've known each other for a while and in the beginning it was great because you clicked in so many ways, then over time you find yourself drifting apart with different interests and different friends, and you just don't feel the same...do you keep him or delete him?
(Whew. That's a tough one.)
The general rule in relationships is unless you're getting physically sick, stay until it's over. Because if it's not really over, you'll find yourself in the same situation with someone else!
To know if you need to keep him or delete him ask yourself these questions:
Is this relationship resourceful? Does it serve me? Do I feel good? Am I having fun? Can we communicate?
Or does this relationship deplete me? Am I exhausted? Do I feel spent? Or dumped on? Or unimportant?
You'll know the answer. You'll know whether to keep him or delete him because...
Your primary role in every relationship is to be Self Loving.
Always.
To Your Love Life in the New Year!
If you're ready to Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship...Order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course today!
Saturday, December 27, 2008
The 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever!
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
It's the holidays! Oh, yes!
So how many cocktail parties, office parties or family gatherings have you been where you're asked, "How's it going?"
And you say, "Great. Great. Everything's great."
And you're asked, "How's your love life?"
And you're thinking, "uh...not so great."
And you're pressed, "Why's that? You're beautiful. Successful. Men must be all over you!"
And you're doing the best you can to come up with why you're still single.
So you say something like, "I dunno. I guess I haven't met the right one."
Or "I dunno. All the men I meet are jerks (especially in this town)."
And you're thinking, "I dunno. What's wrong with me? Why aren't men I like asking me out? What am I doing wrong?"
But you believe in yourself (because you ARE pretty and smart). You know it's possible (even your dowdy neighbor has a great relationship). If you just knew what to do differently (and didn't have to compromise your values or integrity)...you'd do it!
Well, you've come to the right place. I believe in you too. I know it's possible. And not only do I know exactly what you can do to have the romantic relationship you desire...I know how you can become a much better woman in the process! Seriously.
You have NO idea how much I wish I would have known this 20 years ago! It would have saved me so much wasted time and agony worrying about the WRONG men! Ugh!
Lucky girl! You can learn from my blunders and create your own love story...much sooner!
The first most important dating direction is to:
1. Define Your Role
Are you confused when it comes to dating and relationships?
Then it's possible you don't know your role (or your choices).
When you define your role in a relationship you eliminate confusion and stop going competitive with your partner.
You know what's happening. You know what's going on. And you'll know how to read the signs when you're headed for trouble and what to do to get your relationship back on track!
The reason there's so much conflict and drama is because people don't know their roles in relationships. They get together then have no skills to stay together. The result is chaos and divorce.
You must know your role to keep your relationship on a healthy, intimate course.
2. Set the Stage
Let's say you want to meet a new man. How you present...on-line, in person and in your home...sets the stage for who and what you want to attract (or not!)
If you're dating on-line, you want a FANTASTIC headshot and resume. Use a professional photo and write a brief, creative resume that sets you apart from the zillions!
Set your stage in person by being prepared. You never know where he might pop up! (He could be at the dry cleaners!) So look good, feel good, taste good, smell good and sound good wherever you go. And remember to SMILE!
And what about your home? Is there space for another person? Does your environment attract the love of your life? If your ideal man walked through that door this very minute, would he fit?
You must set your stage to make room for the relationship you want to attract.
3. Speak Your Part
How you speak within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone can determine the success (or lack of success) in every romantic relationship.
Within the first minute of meeting a new man, you've established a friendship, a business deal or a romance.
DO NOT make the mistake of setting up a business deal with a man you're romantically attracted to!
Or just as important...DO turn a business deal into a date! :)
You can do this when you speak your part.
Men will notice you and be more receptive. He will hear and understand you. And he will fall more in love with you when you know how to guide him by speaking your part.
(It's so cool when you understand how it all works!)
Defining your role (knowing who you are in a relationship), setting the stage (for what you want to attract) and speaking your part (to build intimacy) are The 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever!
It's the holidays! Oh, yes!
So how many cocktail parties, office parties or family gatherings have you been where you're asked, "How's it going?"
And you say, "Great. Great. Everything's great."
And you're asked, "How's your love life?"
And you're thinking, "uh...not so great."
And you're pressed, "Why's that? You're beautiful. Successful. Men must be all over you!"
And you're doing the best you can to come up with why you're still single.
So you say something like, "I dunno. I guess I haven't met the right one."
Or "I dunno. All the men I meet are jerks (especially in this town)."
And you're thinking, "I dunno. What's wrong with me? Why aren't men I like asking me out? What am I doing wrong?"
But you believe in yourself (because you ARE pretty and smart). You know it's possible (even your dowdy neighbor has a great relationship). If you just knew what to do differently (and didn't have to compromise your values or integrity)...you'd do it!
Well, you've come to the right place. I believe in you too. I know it's possible. And not only do I know exactly what you can do to have the romantic relationship you desire...I know how you can become a much better woman in the process! Seriously.
You have NO idea how much I wish I would have known this 20 years ago! It would have saved me so much wasted time and agony worrying about the WRONG men! Ugh!
Lucky girl! You can learn from my blunders and create your own love story...much sooner!
The first most important dating direction is to:
1. Define Your Role
Are you confused when it comes to dating and relationships?
Then it's possible you don't know your role (or your choices).
When you define your role in a relationship you eliminate confusion and stop going competitive with your partner.
You know what's happening. You know what's going on. And you'll know how to read the signs when you're headed for trouble and what to do to get your relationship back on track!
The reason there's so much conflict and drama is because people don't know their roles in relationships. They get together then have no skills to stay together. The result is chaos and divorce.
You must know your role to keep your relationship on a healthy, intimate course.
2. Set the Stage
Let's say you want to meet a new man. How you present...on-line, in person and in your home...sets the stage for who and what you want to attract (or not!)
If you're dating on-line, you want a FANTASTIC headshot and resume. Use a professional photo and write a brief, creative resume that sets you apart from the zillions!
Set your stage in person by being prepared. You never know where he might pop up! (He could be at the dry cleaners!) So look good, feel good, taste good, smell good and sound good wherever you go. And remember to SMILE!
And what about your home? Is there space for another person? Does your environment attract the love of your life? If your ideal man walked through that door this very minute, would he fit?
You must set your stage to make room for the relationship you want to attract.
3. Speak Your Part
How you speak within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone can determine the success (or lack of success) in every romantic relationship.
Within the first minute of meeting a new man, you've established a friendship, a business deal or a romance.
DO NOT make the mistake of setting up a business deal with a man you're romantically attracted to!
Or just as important...DO turn a business deal into a date! :)
You can do this when you speak your part.
Men will notice you and be more receptive. He will hear and understand you. And he will fall more in love with you when you know how to guide him by speaking your part.
(It's so cool when you understand how it all works!)
Defining your role (knowing who you are in a relationship), setting the stage (for what you want to attract) and speaking your part (to build intimacy) are The 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever!
Friday, December 12, 2008
Great Gifts...That Don't Cost You a Dime
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
'Tis the season...and you know what that means. Parties! Presents! And...Possibilities!
You want to be prepared!
You want to look good. You want to feel good. You want to be on your best behavior (or not! :))
But just in case...
Just in case this season...you're invited to a fabulous party or decide to host that intimate gathering or just want to go out with friends to see the latest cover band...
And just in case He's there...
You wanna look and feel your best. You want to be your best self.
And just in case...
You want to be prepared with gifts...for yourself as well as others.
Here are five great gift ideas that are appropriate for you to give during the Holidays...and all year 'round!
1. Give Presence
When you enter a room...whether it's on a date or for a party...how you present can determine the level of success (or lack of success) for your evening.
You give great presence when you look good, taste good, smell good, sound good and feel good.
Wear something that makes you feel fantastic!
Do something that's good for your body...like dancing or exercise or listening to good music. Baths and naps are good too!
Give presence to the moment. Listen and speak with respect. Even if you don't agree with him (or think he's a dweeb) give him the courtesy of listening.
Listening is an awesome gift.
2. Give Back
He gives. You give back.
He calls. You call him back.
He takes you out...(okay twice.) You cook him dinner.
Give back in appreciation when he (or anyone else) gives to you.
When you receive a gift, give back. Give back to a man you respect in a creative, appreciative way. DO NOT...I repeat...DO NOT give him as much as he gives you.
If you give equally...you're friends. If you give more, he's in debt to you. So unless you wanna play the role of BIG MAMA, pay attention to how much he gives you and what you give back.
3. Give a Smile
Smiles make you look good and they're easy to wear.
Funny thing about a smile...even when you don't feel like it, smiling makes you feel better.
Do it. Push up the corners of your mouth (use your fingers if necessary) and see what happens.
Nothing? Do it again.
Starting to feel it?
Once more...
See? Great. Keep wearing it! :)
4. Give a Compliment
When he does something nice for you, compliment him.
Thank him for his phone call. Thank him when he takes you out. Tell him how much you appreciate the date (even if you were bored silly.) (He can't help who he is.)
Practice giving compliments. Thank the bus boy who fills your water glass. Appreciate the security guard who opens the door for you.
Men feel good when they're acknowledged for doing good.
One of the greatest gifts you can give a guy is a compliment.
And when the compliment comes from an amazing, awesome woman like you, he'll Rock when he receives it!
5. Give to Yourself
This holiday season, I hope you receive many gifts!
But the greatest gift of all is the gift you give yourself. So be generous. Be good to yourself. Take time out. Have fun. Rest. Make time to feel good...
And may you have the best Holiday EVER!
Enjoy! :)
If you liked this article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story" Home Study CD Series!
'Tis the season...and you know what that means. Parties! Presents! And...Possibilities!
You want to be prepared!
You want to look good. You want to feel good. You want to be on your best behavior (or not! :))
But just in case...
Just in case this season...you're invited to a fabulous party or decide to host that intimate gathering or just want to go out with friends to see the latest cover band...
And just in case He's there...
You wanna look and feel your best. You want to be your best self.
And just in case...
You want to be prepared with gifts...for yourself as well as others.
Here are five great gift ideas that are appropriate for you to give during the Holidays...and all year 'round!
1. Give Presence
When you enter a room...whether it's on a date or for a party...how you present can determine the level of success (or lack of success) for your evening.
You give great presence when you look good, taste good, smell good, sound good and feel good.
Wear something that makes you feel fantastic!
Do something that's good for your body...like dancing or exercise or listening to good music. Baths and naps are good too!
Give presence to the moment. Listen and speak with respect. Even if you don't agree with him (or think he's a dweeb) give him the courtesy of listening.
Listening is an awesome gift.
2. Give Back
He gives. You give back.
He calls. You call him back.
He takes you out...(okay twice.) You cook him dinner.
Give back in appreciation when he (or anyone else) gives to you.
When you receive a gift, give back. Give back to a man you respect in a creative, appreciative way. DO NOT...I repeat...DO NOT give him as much as he gives you.
If you give equally...you're friends. If you give more, he's in debt to you. So unless you wanna play the role of BIG MAMA, pay attention to how much he gives you and what you give back.
3. Give a Smile
Smiles make you look good and they're easy to wear.
Funny thing about a smile...even when you don't feel like it, smiling makes you feel better.
Do it. Push up the corners of your mouth (use your fingers if necessary) and see what happens.
Nothing? Do it again.
Starting to feel it?
Once more...
See? Great. Keep wearing it! :)
4. Give a Compliment
When he does something nice for you, compliment him.
Thank him for his phone call. Thank him when he takes you out. Tell him how much you appreciate the date (even if you were bored silly.) (He can't help who he is.)
Practice giving compliments. Thank the bus boy who fills your water glass. Appreciate the security guard who opens the door for you.
Men feel good when they're acknowledged for doing good.
One of the greatest gifts you can give a guy is a compliment.
And when the compliment comes from an amazing, awesome woman like you, he'll Rock when he receives it!
5. Give to Yourself
This holiday season, I hope you receive many gifts!
But the greatest gift of all is the gift you give yourself. So be generous. Be good to yourself. Take time out. Have fun. Rest. Make time to feel good...
And may you have the best Holiday EVER!
Enjoy! :)
If you liked this article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story" Home Study CD Series!
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Is He Dating You, Courting You or WTF?
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
After three great dates and lots of passion, Linda was sure she'd met the one. He was perfect! Attractive, attentive and all-into-her!
Weeks later when she stopped hearing from him, she didn't know WTF had gone wrong.
Linda thought she was being courted by this man. Instead he was dating her.
Which raises the question...
How do you know if a guy is dating you or courting you?
And what's the BIG difference anyway?
Dating is for the short-term. He's here. He's hot. He's gone. Flash and crash. Fun for the moment, then poof...it's over.
Courting is for the long-term. It's slow. It builds. It buds. It's romantic...and long lasting.
A man knows in advance if he wants to date you or court you.
He knows in advance if he wants to play with you for the short-term or if he's in for the long haul.
It's in your best interest to know sooner, rather than later if he's into you for the long run.
So how do you know? How can you tell?
Well, if he hasn't said something like, "I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to settle down..."
Then ask him. Ask him BEFORE you have sex.
This is how you will know the difference.
Ask him before having sex what his plan is. Is he in it with you for the long-term? Is he seeing other women socially and sexually? Is he willing to see you consistently?
If he is in it for the long-term, he's willing not to see other women and he wants to see you on a regular basis, you can bet he's into you. He's courting. He's there with you for the ride.
If he's not into you, he won't do these things. He'll say something like, "Hey, I really like you, but I just wanna have fun. I'm not into a relationship right now."
So the next time you meet a guy you like, you'll know if he's dating you or courting you. And then you can decide how (and if) you want to play along.
Have fun! :)
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker.
If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series!
After three great dates and lots of passion, Linda was sure she'd met the one. He was perfect! Attractive, attentive and all-into-her!
Weeks later when she stopped hearing from him, she didn't know WTF had gone wrong.
Linda thought she was being courted by this man. Instead he was dating her.
Which raises the question...
How do you know if a guy is dating you or courting you?
And what's the BIG difference anyway?
Dating is for the short-term. He's here. He's hot. He's gone. Flash and crash. Fun for the moment, then poof...it's over.
Courting is for the long-term. It's slow. It builds. It buds. It's romantic...and long lasting.
A man knows in advance if he wants to date you or court you.
He knows in advance if he wants to play with you for the short-term or if he's in for the long haul.
It's in your best interest to know sooner, rather than later if he's into you for the long run.
So how do you know? How can you tell?
Well, if he hasn't said something like, "I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to settle down..."
Then ask him. Ask him BEFORE you have sex.
This is how you will know the difference.
Ask him before having sex what his plan is. Is he in it with you for the long-term? Is he seeing other women socially and sexually? Is he willing to see you consistently?
If he is in it for the long-term, he's willing not to see other women and he wants to see you on a regular basis, you can bet he's into you. He's courting. He's there with you for the ride.
If he's not into you, he won't do these things. He'll say something like, "Hey, I really like you, but I just wanna have fun. I'm not into a relationship right now."
So the next time you meet a guy you like, you'll know if he's dating you or courting you. And then you can decide how (and if) you want to play along.
Have fun! :)
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker.
If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series!
Monday, November 17, 2008
The BE Attitudes of Being a Great Woman
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
How can you find a great man? Why, being a great woman, of course.
Even if you're not looking for (or have already found) a great man, you can still be a Great Woman...just interact with men the way you interact with life.
1. BE OPEN to whatever he presents.
2. BE APPRECIATIVE of Everything he offers.
3. BE RECEPTIVE of his ideas (no matter how ridiculous you think they are).
4. BE FIRM and Say NO to what you don't want and what feels uncomfortable.
5. BE RESPECTFUL of what he thinks.
6. BE SELF-DISCIPLINED and keep your mouth shut when you know you can do it better. Or faster. (This is a really tough one.)
7. BE PATIENT. (Another tough one.) (Really tough.)
8. BE ACCEPTING of who he is because that's who he is. And that's what you get. And that's the truth.
9. BE GRACEFUL. (Do the best you can here :))
10. BE PERSISTENT in your pursuit of femininity. Never stop taking care of yourself. Ever. Never stop taking time for things you know are REALLY important and make you feel good.
And may you always BE a Great Woman in Love and Life!
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series! Click Here to Order Now!
How can you find a great man? Why, being a great woman, of course.
Even if you're not looking for (or have already found) a great man, you can still be a Great Woman...just interact with men the way you interact with life.
1. BE OPEN to whatever he presents.
2. BE APPRECIATIVE of Everything he offers.
3. BE RECEPTIVE of his ideas (no matter how ridiculous you think they are).
4. BE FIRM and Say NO to what you don't want and what feels uncomfortable.
5. BE RESPECTFUL of what he thinks.
6. BE SELF-DISCIPLINED and keep your mouth shut when you know you can do it better. Or faster. (This is a really tough one.)
7. BE PATIENT. (Another tough one.) (Really tough.)
8. BE ACCEPTING of who he is because that's who he is. And that's what you get. And that's the truth.
9. BE GRACEFUL. (Do the best you can here :))
10. BE PERSISTENT in your pursuit of femininity. Never stop taking care of yourself. Ever. Never stop taking time for things you know are REALLY important and make you feel good.
And may you always BE a Great Woman in Love and Life!
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series! Click Here to Order Now!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
What Role Are You in Relationships?
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
Are you having difficulty finding what you're looking for in a romantic relationship? Maybe you're in a relationship, but at times you're just not communicating well.
Before blaming your partner or thinking there's no one out there for you, consider taking a good look at what role you're playing in relationships and what it is you're attracting.
In theatre, great drama and great romance stems from great roles. The same is true in relationships.
So what's your role?
1. The HERO
As men and women, it's normal to compete in sports, in business or in school. We're taught to go out and get what we want in the world. We're rewarded for producing. We're compensated for performance. That's all good.
But are you competitive in your romantic relationships?
A masculine HERO knows what he wants and goes after it. He thinks, acts and problem solves. He usually brings the money and status in a relationship.
A HERO isn't always the man. Women can be HEROES too.
In fact, women are HEROES when they nurture and mother. Giving, protecting and cherishing are HERO skills. (Shocking, but true). Female HEROES usually mother their men.
Many romantic relationships end up going competitive because there are two too many HEROES on stage.
2. The INGENUE
The INGENUE is feminine. Feminine is not to be confused with passive. The INGENUE is a potent, powerful energy, but operates very differently from the HERO.
An INGENUE gets what she wants by knowing what she doesn't want. Ingenues receive and give back in appreciation. They are available and are open to ideas and suggestions. INGENUES respect their HEROES.
INGENUES are feeling-oriented. Their mantra is: If It Feels Good, Do it!
Unlike a HERO who goes competitive wanting to achieve and win, INGENUES go competitive with feelings.
Sometimes there are two too many INGENUES in a romantic relationship.
3. The MASTER
If there is such a thing as a healthy narcissist, it would have to be a single MASTER. "What do I want to do? What do I feel like eating? I have to pay my bills. I don't want to go out tonight." The MASTER acts on both thoughts and feelings...which is perfectly fine in a single lifestyle.
In a relationship, the role of MASTER goes to the partner who gets both thoughts respected AND feelings cherished.
The MASTER is both HERO and INGENUE in his/her relationship, leaving very little (if any) room for a poor, unworthy...
4. The SLAVE
Like a doormat, the SLAVE gets stepped on, but doesn't speak. The SLAVE'S only role is to serve their super egotistical narcissistic MASTER.
The SLAVE respects and cherishes his/her partners thoughts and feelings and is seldom rewarded or acknowledged for their own needs.
When a SLAVE is noticed, it's usually to be kicked or walked upon. Often the SLAVE will incorrectly "mind read" the wants or needs of their MASTER or does something displeasing. When this happens, tragedy can occur. (Remember O.J., anyone?)
So which role are you? :)
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Are you having difficulty finding what you're looking for in a romantic relationship? Maybe you're in a relationship, but at times you're just not communicating well.
Before blaming your partner or thinking there's no one out there for you, consider taking a good look at what role you're playing in relationships and what it is you're attracting.
In theatre, great drama and great romance stems from great roles. The same is true in relationships.
So what's your role?
1. The HERO
As men and women, it's normal to compete in sports, in business or in school. We're taught to go out and get what we want in the world. We're rewarded for producing. We're compensated for performance. That's all good.
But are you competitive in your romantic relationships?
A masculine HERO knows what he wants and goes after it. He thinks, acts and problem solves. He usually brings the money and status in a relationship.
A HERO isn't always the man. Women can be HEROES too.
In fact, women are HEROES when they nurture and mother. Giving, protecting and cherishing are HERO skills. (Shocking, but true). Female HEROES usually mother their men.
Many romantic relationships end up going competitive because there are two too many HEROES on stage.
2. The INGENUE
The INGENUE is feminine. Feminine is not to be confused with passive. The INGENUE is a potent, powerful energy, but operates very differently from the HERO.
An INGENUE gets what she wants by knowing what she doesn't want. Ingenues receive and give back in appreciation. They are available and are open to ideas and suggestions. INGENUES respect their HEROES.
INGENUES are feeling-oriented. Their mantra is: If It Feels Good, Do it!
Unlike a HERO who goes competitive wanting to achieve and win, INGENUES go competitive with feelings.
Sometimes there are two too many INGENUES in a romantic relationship.
3. The MASTER
If there is such a thing as a healthy narcissist, it would have to be a single MASTER. "What do I want to do? What do I feel like eating? I have to pay my bills. I don't want to go out tonight." The MASTER acts on both thoughts and feelings...which is perfectly fine in a single lifestyle.
In a relationship, the role of MASTER goes to the partner who gets both thoughts respected AND feelings cherished.
The MASTER is both HERO and INGENUE in his/her relationship, leaving very little (if any) room for a poor, unworthy...
4. The SLAVE
Like a doormat, the SLAVE gets stepped on, but doesn't speak. The SLAVE'S only role is to serve their super egotistical narcissistic MASTER.
The SLAVE respects and cherishes his/her partners thoughts and feelings and is seldom rewarded or acknowledged for their own needs.
When a SLAVE is noticed, it's usually to be kicked or walked upon. Often the SLAVE will incorrectly "mind read" the wants or needs of their MASTER or does something displeasing. When this happens, tragedy can occur. (Remember O.J., anyone?)
So which role are you? :)
For more dating techniques and to learn what to do and say in your relationship (so you don't blow it)...Order The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course Today!
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