The 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever!

by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"

It's the holidays!  Oh, yes!

So how many cocktail parties, office parties or family gatherings have you been where you're asked, "How's it going?"

And you say, "Great.  Great.  Everything's great."

And you're asked, "How's your love life?"

And you're thinking, "uh...not so great."

And you're pressed, "Why's that?  You're beautiful.  Successful.  Men must be all over you!"

And you're doing the best you can to come up with why you're still single.

So you say something like, "I dunno.  I guess I haven't met the right one."

Or "I dunno.  All the men I meet are jerks (especially in this town)."

And you're thinking, "I dunno.  What's wrong with me?  Why aren't men I like asking me out?  What am I doing wrong?"

But you believe in yourself (because you ARE pretty and smart).  You know it's possible (even your dowdy neighbor has a great relationship).  If you just knew what to do differently (and didn't have to compromise your values or integrity)...you'd do it!

Well, you've come to the right place.  I believe in you too.  I know it's possible.  And not only do I know exactly what you can do to have the romantic relationship you desire...I know how you can become a much better woman in the process!  Seriously.

You have NO idea how much I wish I would have known this 20 years ago!  It would have saved me so much wasted time and agony worrying about the WRONG men!  Ugh!

Lucky girl!  You can learn from my blunders and create your own love story...much sooner!

The first most important dating direction is to:

1.  Define Your Role

Are you confused when it comes to dating and relationships? 

Then it's possible you don't know your role (or your choices). 

When you define your role in a relationship you eliminate confusion and stop going competitive with your partner.

You know what's happening.  You know what's going on.  And you'll know how to read the signs when you're headed for trouble and what to do to get your relationship back on track!

The reason there's so much conflict and drama is because people don't know their roles in relationships.  They get together then have no skills to stay together.  The result is chaos and divorce.

You must know your role to keep your relationship on a healthy, intimate course.

2.  Set the Stage

Let's say you want to meet a new man.  How you present...on-line, in person and in your home...sets the stage for who and what you want to attract (or not!)

If you're dating on-line, you want a FANTASTIC headshot and resume.  Use a professional photo and write a brief, creative resume that sets you apart from the zillions!

Set your stage in person by being prepared.  You never know where he might pop up!  (He could be at the dry cleaners!)  So look good, feel good, taste good, smell good and sound good wherever you go.  And remember to SMILE!

And what about your home?  Is there space for another person?  Does your environment attract the love of your life?  If your ideal man walked through that door this very minute, would he fit?

You must set your stage to make room for the relationship you want to attract.

3.  Speak Your Part

How you speak within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone can determine the success (or lack of success) in every romantic relationship.

Within the first minute of meeting a new man, you've established a friendship, a business deal or a romance.

DO NOT make the mistake of setting up a business deal with a man you're romantically attracted to!

Or just as important...DO turn a business deal into a date! :)

You can do this when you speak your part.

Men will notice you and be more receptive.  He will hear and understand you.  And he will fall more in love with you when you know how to guide him by speaking your part.

(It's so cool when you understand how it all works!)

Defining your role (knowing who you are in a relationship), setting the stage (for what you want to attract) and speaking your part (to build intimacy) are The 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever!

Great Gifts...That Don't Cost You a Dime

by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"

'Tis the season...and you know what that means.  Parties!  Presents!  And...Possibilities!

You want to be prepared!

You want to look good.  You want to feel good.  You want to be on your best behavior (or not! :)) 

But just in case...

Just in case this season...you're invited to a fabulous party or decide to host that intimate gathering or just want to go out with friends to see the latest cover band...

And just in case He's there...

You wanna look and feel your best.  You want to be your best self.

And just in case...

You want to be prepared with gifts...for yourself as well as others.

Here are five great gift ideas that are appropriate for you to give during the Holidays...and all year 'round!

1.  Give Presence

When you enter a room...whether it's on a date or for a party...how you present can determine the level of success (or lack of success) for your evening.

You give great presence when you look good, taste good, smell good, sound good and feel good.

Wear something that makes you feel fantastic!

Do something that's good for your body...like dancing or exercise or listening to good music.  Baths and naps are good too!

Give presence to the moment.  Listen and speak with respect.  Even if you don't agree with him (or think he's a dweeb) give him the courtesy of listening.

Listening is an awesome gift.

2.  Give Back

He gives.  You give back.

He calls.  You call him back.

He takes you out...(okay twice.)  You cook him dinner.

Give back in appreciation when he (or anyone else) gives to you.

When you receive a gift, give back.  Give back to a man you respect in a creative, appreciative way.  DO NOT...I repeat...DO NOT give him as much as he gives you.

If you give equally...you're friends.  If you give more, he's in debt to you.  So unless you wanna play the role of BIG MAMA, pay attention to how much he gives you and what you give back.

3.  Give a Smile

Smiles make you look good and they're easy to wear.

Funny thing about a smile...even when you don't feel like it, smiling makes you feel better.

Do it.  Push up the corners of your mouth (use your fingers if necessary) and see what happens.

Nothing?  Do it again.

Starting to feel it?

Once more...

See?  Great.  Keep wearing it! :)

4.  Give a Compliment

When he does something nice for you, compliment him.

Thank him for his phone call.  Thank him when he takes you out.  Tell him how much you appreciate the date (even if you were bored silly.)  (He can't help who he is.)

Practice giving compliments.  Thank the bus boy who fills your water glass.  Appreciate the security guard who opens the door for you.

Men feel good when they're acknowledged for doing good.

One of the greatest gifts you can give a guy is a compliment.

And when the compliment comes from an amazing, awesome woman like you, he'll Rock when he receives it!

5.  Give to Yourself

This holiday season, I hope you receive many gifts!

But the greatest gift of all is the gift you give yourself.  So be generous.  Be good to yourself.  Take time out.  Have fun.  Rest.  Make time to feel good... 

And may you have the best Holiday EVER!

Enjoy! :)

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