He's Just Not That Into You...Now What?

by Cherry Norris, "The Hollywood Dating Director"

It doesn't take a brain surgeon to diagnosis if a man isn't calling you...he's probably not into you.

In the romantic comedy, "He's Just Not That Into You", a film based on Greg Behrendt's popular self-help book, a gorgeous ensemble in various stages of relationships quest to find true love.

Although the film is fun to watch, it doesn't give you much tangible dating advice.

Like, if he's not into you...then what?

Or if he WAS into you but now he's not...what happened?

Or can you get him into you...and if so, how? 

Here are three ideas:

1.  If He's Not Into You...Then What?

Move on.

Like the book says...if he's not into you...don't waste your time.

Meaning if he's not calling, he's not pursuing, he's not inviting you out...you're on to "next"!

This is easier said than done. 

Often you can't help replaying the date (or the relationship) over and over and over again in your head trying to analyze and figure out what happened and WHY isn't he into you.  Especially when he acted so nice!

It's maddening. 

Don't take it personally.  Because it's not.  He can't help who his body chooses.

Brush yourself off, go back out there and find someone who is into you!

2.  He WAS Into You, but Now He's Not...What Happened?

If he was into you but now he's acting distant...

And calling you less...

And only inviting you over for a little late night booty...

Chances are something did happen.

Was it something you said?  Maybe.

Was it something you did?  Maybe.

My guess is if he was into you and now he's not...one of two things happened:

First, the guy pulled a "bait and switch".  He baited you with compliments and attention, got you all sexually bonded and feeling good...then "switched" by stopping his pursuit and now sits back waiting for you to call to invite him over and basically do all the work.

(This is not a good guy...move on!)

Second, you started going competitive with him.  You started making plans.  You started taking over.  You became the better man and he may have felt he couldn't offer you anything.  And what he was giving you was not appreciated.

This is a good guy.

If you are dating a guy like this right now this minute, practice saying, "yes, thank you, please..." for everything he does for you.  Everything!

3.  Can You Get Him Into You?  If So, How?

Maybe.

If you don't turn him on sexually...probably not.

If you do turn him on, you can guide him to be REALLY into you...if you know how! :)

You can keep him wanting you more and more.  It takes ingenuity and skill.  But you can cleverly guide a man to give, protect and cherish you like you'd never believe possible IF you know how to do it.

Women are the spiritual leaders on the planet.  In general, men are more simple minded (not an insult...it's the way a man's brain is designed).  When a woman knows how to artfully guide a man to become a better man, everybody wins.

And yes...not only will he be into you you, he will stay into you!

Sound good? 

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Does He Juice You Up? (or Drain You Dry?)

by Cherry Norris, "The Hollywood Dating Director"

Look around you... 

The guy you attracted on line.  Does he juice you up or does he drain you dry by e-mailing and texting, but never inviting you out?

The man you're dating.  Does he pick you up?  Does he take you out?  Does he make a plan?  Does he juice you up or drain you dry?

The man you've been with.  He was generous at first but now you're exhausted because you're giving too much.  Does he still juice you up?

And while we're at it...

What about your girlfriends? 

Or your family?

Or your job?

Do they juice you up...or do they drain you dry?

Currently, I'm a member of several masterminds.  I joined these groups because I want to be around like-minded friends and colleagues who want to grow their businesses. 

AND...I want to be around people who juice me up! 

It's sweet.

It's refreshing.

It's invigorating.

And it just feels damn good to be with people who make you feel good about yourself!

In The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story, I talk about the importance of looking and feeling your best when you are dating and building relationships.

It's important to take care of yourself.  In love.  In life.  And that means being around people who juice you up and stop being around people who don't. 

Sometimes it's a date.  You want him to call.  You worry that he won't.  You hate that you're thinking about it...this much.  It's draining.

Sometimes it's a man.  He wants you to do this and be that and to come and go there.  (Or not.)  (And that's a drain too!)

Sometimes it's a friend.  She doesn't understand why you're going out on a date instead of hanging with her. 

Sometimes it's your Mother.  She expects you to be at the family dinner.  Period. 

Yes, your friends and family SAY they are supportive (and some really are), but there are those who don't want your relationship to change with them.  Beware.

Find the people who fill you up and support you.  Keep them!

Next time you're on a date (or with someone) ask yourself, "Does he/she juice me up or drain me dry?"

You'll know the answer.

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