by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
After three great dates and lots of passion, Linda was sure she'd met the one. He was perfect! Attractive, attentive and all-into-her!
Weeks later when she stopped hearing from him, she didn't know WTF had gone wrong.
Linda thought she was being courted by this man. Instead he was dating her.
Which raises the question...
How do you know if a guy is dating you or courting you?
And what's the BIG difference anyway?
Dating is for the short-term. He's here. He's hot. He's gone. Flash and crash. Fun for the moment, then poof...it's over.
Courting is for the long-term. It's slow. It builds. It buds. It's romantic...and long lasting.
A man knows in advance if he wants to date you or court you.
He knows in advance if he wants to play with you for the short-term or if he's in for the long haul.
It's in your best interest to know sooner, rather than later if he's into you for the long run.
So how do you know? How can you tell?
Well, if he hasn't said something like, "I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to settle down..."
Then ask him. Ask him BEFORE you have sex.
This is how you will know the difference.
Ask him before having sex what his plan is. Is he in it with you for the long-term? Is he seeing other women socially and sexually? Is he willing to see you consistently?
If he is in it for the long-term, he's willing not to see other women and he wants to see you on a regular basis, you can bet he's into you. He's courting. He's there with you for the ride.
If he's not into you, he won't do these things. He'll say something like, "Hey, I really like you, but I just wanna have fun. I'm not into a relationship right now."
So the next time you meet a guy you like, you'll know if he's dating you or courting you. And then you can decide how (and if) you want to play along.
Have fun! :)
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker.
If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series!
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Monday, November 17, 2008
The BE Attitudes of Being a Great Woman
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
How can you find a great man? Why, being a great woman, of course.
Even if you're not looking for (or have already found) a great man, you can still be a Great Woman...just interact with men the way you interact with life.
1. BE OPEN to whatever he presents.
2. BE APPRECIATIVE of Everything he offers.
3. BE RECEPTIVE of his ideas (no matter how ridiculous you think they are).
4. BE FIRM and Say NO to what you don't want and what feels uncomfortable.
5. BE RESPECTFUL of what he thinks.
6. BE SELF-DISCIPLINED and keep your mouth shut when you know you can do it better. Or faster. (This is a really tough one.)
7. BE PATIENT. (Another tough one.) (Really tough.)
8. BE ACCEPTING of who he is because that's who he is. And that's what you get. And that's the truth.
9. BE GRACEFUL. (Do the best you can here :))
10. BE PERSISTENT in your pursuit of femininity. Never stop taking care of yourself. Ever. Never stop taking time for things you know are REALLY important and make you feel good.
And may you always BE a Great Woman in Love and Life!
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series! Click Here to Order Now!
How can you find a great man? Why, being a great woman, of course.
Even if you're not looking for (or have already found) a great man, you can still be a Great Woman...just interact with men the way you interact with life.
1. BE OPEN to whatever he presents.
2. BE APPRECIATIVE of Everything he offers.
3. BE RECEPTIVE of his ideas (no matter how ridiculous you think they are).
4. BE FIRM and Say NO to what you don't want and what feels uncomfortable.
5. BE RESPECTFUL of what he thinks.
6. BE SELF-DISCIPLINED and keep your mouth shut when you know you can do it better. Or faster. (This is a really tough one.)
7. BE PATIENT. (Another tough one.) (Really tough.)
8. BE ACCEPTING of who he is because that's who he is. And that's what you get. And that's the truth.
9. BE GRACEFUL. (Do the best you can here :))
10. BE PERSISTENT in your pursuit of femininity. Never stop taking care of yourself. Ever. Never stop taking time for things you know are REALLY important and make you feel good.
And may you always BE a Great Woman in Love and Life!
Cherry Norris, aka "The Dating Director" is a renowned dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. If you liked today's article, you'll absolutely LOVE "The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Romantic Relationship" Home Study CD Series! Click Here to Order Now!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
What Role Are You in Relationships?
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
Are you having difficulty finding what you're looking for in a romantic relationship? Maybe you're in a relationship, but at times you're just not communicating well.
Before blaming your partner or thinking there's no one out there for you, consider taking a good look at what role you're playing in relationships and what it is you're attracting.
In theatre, great drama and great romance stems from great roles. The same is true in relationships.
So what's your role?
1. The HERO
As men and women, it's normal to compete in sports, in business or in school. We're taught to go out and get what we want in the world. We're rewarded for producing. We're compensated for performance. That's all good.
But are you competitive in your romantic relationships?
A masculine HERO knows what he wants and goes after it. He thinks, acts and problem solves. He usually brings the money and status in a relationship.
A HERO isn't always the man. Women can be HEROES too.
In fact, women are HEROES when they nurture and mother. Giving, protecting and cherishing are HERO skills. (Shocking, but true). Female HEROES usually mother their men.
Many romantic relationships end up going competitive because there are two too many HEROES on stage.
2. The INGENUE
The INGENUE is feminine. Feminine is not to be confused with passive. The INGENUE is a potent, powerful energy, but operates very differently from the HERO.
An INGENUE gets what she wants by knowing what she doesn't want. Ingenues receive and give back in appreciation. They are available and are open to ideas and suggestions. INGENUES respect their HEROES.
INGENUES are feeling-oriented. Their mantra is: If It Feels Good, Do it!
Unlike a HERO who goes competitive wanting to achieve and win, INGENUES go competitive with feelings.
Sometimes there are two too many INGENUES in a romantic relationship.
3. The MASTER
If there is such a thing as a healthy narcissist, it would have to be a single MASTER. "What do I want to do? What do I feel like eating? I have to pay my bills. I don't want to go out tonight." The MASTER acts on both thoughts and feelings...which is perfectly fine in a single lifestyle.
In a relationship, the role of MASTER goes to the partner who gets both thoughts respected AND feelings cherished.
The MASTER is both HERO and INGENUE in his/her relationship, leaving very little (if any) room for a poor, unworthy...
4. The SLAVE
Like a doormat, the SLAVE gets stepped on, but doesn't speak. The SLAVE'S only role is to serve their super egotistical narcissistic MASTER.
The SLAVE respects and cherishes his/her partners thoughts and feelings and is seldom rewarded or acknowledged for their own needs.
When a SLAVE is noticed, it's usually to be kicked or walked upon. Often the SLAVE will incorrectly "mind read" the wants or needs of their MASTER or does something displeasing. When this happens, tragedy can occur. (Remember O.J., anyone?)
So which role are you? :)
For more dating techniques and to learn what to do and say in your relationship (so you don't blow it)...Order The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course Today!
Are you having difficulty finding what you're looking for in a romantic relationship? Maybe you're in a relationship, but at times you're just not communicating well.
Before blaming your partner or thinking there's no one out there for you, consider taking a good look at what role you're playing in relationships and what it is you're attracting.
In theatre, great drama and great romance stems from great roles. The same is true in relationships.
So what's your role?
1. The HERO
As men and women, it's normal to compete in sports, in business or in school. We're taught to go out and get what we want in the world. We're rewarded for producing. We're compensated for performance. That's all good.
But are you competitive in your romantic relationships?
A masculine HERO knows what he wants and goes after it. He thinks, acts and problem solves. He usually brings the money and status in a relationship.
A HERO isn't always the man. Women can be HEROES too.
In fact, women are HEROES when they nurture and mother. Giving, protecting and cherishing are HERO skills. (Shocking, but true). Female HEROES usually mother their men.
Many romantic relationships end up going competitive because there are two too many HEROES on stage.
2. The INGENUE
The INGENUE is feminine. Feminine is not to be confused with passive. The INGENUE is a potent, powerful energy, but operates very differently from the HERO.
An INGENUE gets what she wants by knowing what she doesn't want. Ingenues receive and give back in appreciation. They are available and are open to ideas and suggestions. INGENUES respect their HEROES.
INGENUES are feeling-oriented. Their mantra is: If It Feels Good, Do it!
Unlike a HERO who goes competitive wanting to achieve and win, INGENUES go competitive with feelings.
Sometimes there are two too many INGENUES in a romantic relationship.
3. The MASTER
If there is such a thing as a healthy narcissist, it would have to be a single MASTER. "What do I want to do? What do I feel like eating? I have to pay my bills. I don't want to go out tonight." The MASTER acts on both thoughts and feelings...which is perfectly fine in a single lifestyle.
In a relationship, the role of MASTER goes to the partner who gets both thoughts respected AND feelings cherished.
The MASTER is both HERO and INGENUE in his/her relationship, leaving very little (if any) room for a poor, unworthy...
4. The SLAVE
Like a doormat, the SLAVE gets stepped on, but doesn't speak. The SLAVE'S only role is to serve their super egotistical narcissistic MASTER.
The SLAVE respects and cherishes his/her partners thoughts and feelings and is seldom rewarded or acknowledged for their own needs.
When a SLAVE is noticed, it's usually to be kicked or walked upon. Often the SLAVE will incorrectly "mind read" the wants or needs of their MASTER or does something displeasing. When this happens, tragedy can occur. (Remember O.J., anyone?)
So which role are you? :)
For more dating techniques and to learn what to do and say in your relationship (so you don't blow it)...Order The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course Today!
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