Making an Entrance: The Power of Presentation

by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"

I fluffed my hair, dabbed my lipstick and gave myself one last check in the mirror.  Then I took a deep breath.

I opened the door.

And there he stood...

Tall, Dark and Dirty.

Seriously.  He was filthy.  His clothes weren't washed.  There was dirt underneath his fingernails and he smelled bad.

I couldn't believe this man had showed up like this for our date.

Our first meeting and he knocks at my door unbathed!

He was an electrician and he came to pick me up directly from work.  (We were meeting for the first time through a dating agency.)

Before he could open his mouth...I knew this man was most definitely NOT MY MAN!

Before he could speak, I cast him in the role of "Loser".

I couldn't hear a thing he said....

Because it was over.  In the first three seconds as he stood at my door, it was over.  Done.

No matter what you think...Presentation is important.

People make an impression of you in the first three seconds of seeing you.

How you look, how you act and how you speak can set the stage for your relationship (or lack of a relationship) from here to eternity.

My date made a memorable entrance...but not a favorable one.

Here are three directions on how to make a favorable entrance to attract the man you want:

1.  Dress the Part

Do you look your best?  Are you clean?  Do you smell good?  How's your hair and make-up?

Does what you're wearing fit you?  Is it the right color?  Does it flatter your body?

If it doesn't, you're not dressing your part.  You can't possibly expect to attract a really great guy if you don't look good.

Dress your best.  Wear something soft.  Wear something touchable.  Wear something that shows off your figure.

If you're dressing to attract the attention of a man, be sure you're giving him something he'd like to see.

And put a smile on your lips and sway your hips!  Because, baby, he also likes how you move!

2.  Act the Part

Are you courteous?  Are you timely?  Are you rude?

Do you tell him what to do?  Or do you let him lead?

Do you ask for his number?  Or wait for him to want to call you?

Do you impress him with your accomplishments or respect his first?  (HELLO!  If you're respecting each other's accomplishments, you're two men at work...you're not on a date!)

If you want to attract a man, you want him to like how you act. 

That means being on time.  Listening to what he has to say.  Smiling when he says something amusing. 

Act as if you enjoy being with him and that he interests you.  (Even if he doesn't interest you, it's good practice!)

Knowing how to act your part is part of being in a relationship.  And that (as far as I know) will never change.

3.  Speak the Part

Do you talk too much?  Are you critical?  Do you judge?

Do you say "Yes" to his ideas?  "Thank you" to his compliments?  Or "Please" to what he offers?

And when it's uncomfortable can you really say "No"? (And mean it?)

You must know how to speak to your partner.  How to respect him.  How to build with him.  How to negotiate and communicate with him.

I don't have to remind you how different we are.  How men's and women's brains are different.  How we speak and communicate so differently. 

As a woman, it's in your best interest to understand a man's language and how he takes in information so that when you speak, he hears you and understands you.  

In a romantic relationship it will serve you to know how to speak to your man.

So next time you Make an Entrance to Meet a New Man remember...how you dress, how you act and how you speak...can determine the success (or lack of success) in your relationship.

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