by Cherry Norris, "The Hollywood Dating Director"
I've been bombarded lately with articles and seminars on how women can be more feminine in the workplace.
This cracks me up!
Why?
Because work by nature requires a masculine skill set. Period. When you work, you produce. You're active. You're doing. You're accomplishing things. That's what work is.
When you're feminine, it's all about how you feel. You feel good to do good. Yes, you might feel good wearing sexy stilettos and a tight skirt on the job...but that doesn't automatically make you feminine.
So can you feel good to do good in the workplace?
Maybe.
Usually at work you have to meet deadlines, make sales calls or close deals in order to get your paycheck.
Feeling good at work over getting your job done will most likely get you fired or put you right out of business!
Years ago, I decided to run my business as a feminine woman. (After all, I'm in the business of teaching the art of femininity.) And guess what? I went out of business. Very quickly I might add!
If I didn't feel like it, I didn't work. I didn't give myself deadlines. I didn't produce. And within a few months, I didn't have a business.
So the question becomes "Can you be MORE feminine at work?"
The answer is Yes. Absolutely. You can.
1. Look Good
You can dress well. You can wear form fitting clothes, a nice skirt, heels and make-up. You can dress like a lady and you will be noticed.
And being noticed can make you feel really good. Especially when compliments are coming your way!
Presenting like a feminine woman goes a long way at work and in your romance.
But...you already know this.
2. Speak Respectfully
How you communicate with a man can have him collaborating with you or competing with you.
When you know the art of "man speak" at work, you will find men cheering you, championing you and doing their best to keep you happy so you'll stay on their team.
A colleague of mine works at a prestigious Chicago law firm. She uses dialogue she learned in The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story at work. Do you think the lawyers in her firm appreciate how respectful she is? You bet they do. They adore her!
Do you think she feels appreciated by the men she works with? Oh yes.
3. Turn a Business Deal into a Date
If you work with men, you have an incredible opportunity to audition and present. And if you know how (and when) to flirt appropriately, you can easily and gracefully turn a business deal into a date.
This is a great way to use your femininity in the work place. As a woman, your brain can go from business to pleasure in an instant.
So when you catch that cute guy by the water cooler or at the lunch table, use your feminine ingenuity. This way he'll see more than your business mind...he'll see your sensual, playful side as well.
And you never know where that can lead. :)
If you want more ideas and examples of how you can speak your part to attract your romantic co-star, order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course.
Everything you need to know about having the romantic relationship you want is there and more! Order your copy today!
Sunday, March 29, 2009
What's Your Story?
by Cherry Norris, "The Hollywood Dating Director"
I felt a little guilty.
True, I needed to put things in place after having the furniture removed for three weeks while our floors were being replaced (due to water damage), but I could have just put everything back the way it was...or had the moving company do it.
Instead, I decided to recreate and redesign our space. I decided to rearrange book shelves and de-clutter closets while everything was still in boxes.
And I felt a little guilty.
It was easy to think of every other thing I could be doing (returning phone calls, e-mails or working on my business) instead of sorting candlesticks and flower vases.
But for me, this was important.
After all, I am an Ingenue.
And Ingenues need to feel good before doing good. And I didn't feel good about having my home out of order. It was noise in my head. It messed with my peace.
I needed to set the stage so our home and my business can work under one roof. I don't want it messy. I want it nice. And I want my own space. Of this I am certain.
(Virginia Woolf was right.)
So in order to feel good to do good at home and in my office, my stage must be in order. And my story must be straight.
And so does yours. Because your home tells the story of who it is you are.
If you want to create (or re-create) the reality of your life look at your home. Look at what is around you and ask yourself...
1. What Is My Story?
Your home tells your story. Every item in your house has energy. Some of it's old. Some of it's memorable. Some of it is worth giving up so you can move out of your past and into your future.
What do your things say about you? What story do they tell about your life?
What's on your bookshelves? Who's in your photos? Your ex? Old friends? Other people's children?
As I was rearranging, I found wedding gifts from my first marriage 25 years ago. Guess what? They're gone. Well most of them. (I had to keep an antique wooden refrigerator...) (What? I picked it out.)
Is there something in your house that doesn't work for the story you want to tell about yourself? If so, remove it. Replace it with an image (or an item) that takes you where you want to be (and with whom you want to be).
2. Where's My Drama?
Where's the "WOW" factor? Where's the fun? Where's the surprise?
Your home can reflect the fun, passionate, creative side of you, so don't be shy!
My bedroom office used to be a dark, unimaginative, uncreative space. It basically functioned with a desk, a computer, fax, phone, etc.
The room was filled with past mementos, uninspired images and old furniture...
Until I got creative.
I turned my office into a theatre. Complete with red curtains, a prop closet, an art department and a rehearsal space. Now it's a fun place to work. I'm surrounded with fun, inspiring accessories!
So where's the drama in your home? What unexpected and fun surprises can we find there?
Maybe you have an unusual collection of games. Or unusual travel souvenirs. Or an unusual room arrangement like swapping your living room with your dining area. You get the idea. :)
And don't forget the "WOW" factor with food and entertaining! If a man you like comes to visit, what's in your fridge? Or say you want to throw an impromptu fete for a few close friends...how will you present?
If you want more ideas and examples of how you can set the stage for love and attract your romantic co-star, order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course.
Everything you need to know about having the romantic relationship you want it there and more! Order your copy today!
I felt a little guilty.
True, I needed to put things in place after having the furniture removed for three weeks while our floors were being replaced (due to water damage), but I could have just put everything back the way it was...or had the moving company do it.
Instead, I decided to recreate and redesign our space. I decided to rearrange book shelves and de-clutter closets while everything was still in boxes.
And I felt a little guilty.
It was easy to think of every other thing I could be doing (returning phone calls, e-mails or working on my business) instead of sorting candlesticks and flower vases.
But for me, this was important.
After all, I am an Ingenue.
And Ingenues need to feel good before doing good. And I didn't feel good about having my home out of order. It was noise in my head. It messed with my peace.
I needed to set the stage so our home and my business can work under one roof. I don't want it messy. I want it nice. And I want my own space. Of this I am certain.
(Virginia Woolf was right.)
So in order to feel good to do good at home and in my office, my stage must be in order. And my story must be straight.
And so does yours. Because your home tells the story of who it is you are.
If you want to create (or re-create) the reality of your life look at your home. Look at what is around you and ask yourself...
1. What Is My Story?
Your home tells your story. Every item in your house has energy. Some of it's old. Some of it's memorable. Some of it is worth giving up so you can move out of your past and into your future.
What do your things say about you? What story do they tell about your life?
What's on your bookshelves? Who's in your photos? Your ex? Old friends? Other people's children?
As I was rearranging, I found wedding gifts from my first marriage 25 years ago. Guess what? They're gone. Well most of them. (I had to keep an antique wooden refrigerator...) (What? I picked it out.)
Is there something in your house that doesn't work for the story you want to tell about yourself? If so, remove it. Replace it with an image (or an item) that takes you where you want to be (and with whom you want to be).
2. Where's My Drama?
Where's the "WOW" factor? Where's the fun? Where's the surprise?
Your home can reflect the fun, passionate, creative side of you, so don't be shy!
My bedroom office used to be a dark, unimaginative, uncreative space. It basically functioned with a desk, a computer, fax, phone, etc.
The room was filled with past mementos, uninspired images and old furniture...
Until I got creative.
I turned my office into a theatre. Complete with red curtains, a prop closet, an art department and a rehearsal space. Now it's a fun place to work. I'm surrounded with fun, inspiring accessories!
So where's the drama in your home? What unexpected and fun surprises can we find there?
Maybe you have an unusual collection of games. Or unusual travel souvenirs. Or an unusual room arrangement like swapping your living room with your dining area. You get the idea. :)
And don't forget the "WOW" factor with food and entertaining! If a man you like comes to visit, what's in your fridge? Or say you want to throw an impromptu fete for a few close friends...how will you present?
If you want more ideas and examples of how you can set the stage for love and attract your romantic co-star, order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course.
Everything you need to know about having the romantic relationship you want it there and more! Order your copy today!
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
The Final Curtain...How to Know When It's REALLY Over!
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
Cindy and Sam have been dating for two years.
Cindy wants an engagement ring and a wedding date.
Sam wants to keep things as they are...casual dating.
When Cindy confronted Sam about his long-term plan for them, Sam told her he wasn't interested in marriage. He is, however, still interested in dating her.
Cindy and Sam are incompatible.
Sadly, Cindy broke up with Sam.
Sam still calls Cindy, wanting to remain friends.
Cindy now questions if her relationship with Sam is REALLY over.
Often in a relationship, the final curtain is a break-up and not a marriage. But how do you know when your relationship is REALLY over?
1. You Are Incompatible
When you and your partner are not able to reach an agreement for a long-term plan, you're done.
Without a long-term agreement...there is no future.
I'm a big advocate for people staying in relationships for as long as possible. If you leave a relationship too early and don't get the lesson, you can bet you'll attract the exact same thing in the next relationship you enter.
However, if you and your partner are incompatible in your style of relationship and where you want to go together...it's REALLY over.
In Cindy's situation, her relationship with Sam is REALLY over.
2. The Relationship is Making You Sick
If you're getting sick, it's time to leave.
Or if your partner is violent and abusive...time to go!
If you need to call a cop a doctor or a lawyer...it's over.
Get out ASAP!
No relationship is worth sacrificing your health and your body. REALLY!
3. You Only Feel Apathy and Empathy
If you have no charge...
If you feel sorry for the poor bastard...
Or could care less what he does or does not do...
Or watching him chew turns your stomach...
It's over. You're done. REALLY. Move on.
4. He Wants to Remain Friends
Classic. He doesn't want you...but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either!
You cannot be friends with your lover until you both have new lovers first!
Why is that?
Because every time you see him, smell him or hear the sound of his voice, your body chemicals kick in and keep you physically glued!
No one else will look good to you. It will take you sooooo much longer to recover!
So unless you have children together or a business or some other endeavor that forces you to see each other, do your best to stay apart until your heart is healed!
Got it? Good.
Everything you need to know about having the romantic relationship you desire and much, much more is in The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course. Order your copy today!
Cindy and Sam have been dating for two years.
Cindy wants an engagement ring and a wedding date.
Sam wants to keep things as they are...casual dating.
When Cindy confronted Sam about his long-term plan for them, Sam told her he wasn't interested in marriage. He is, however, still interested in dating her.
Cindy and Sam are incompatible.
Sadly, Cindy broke up with Sam.
Sam still calls Cindy, wanting to remain friends.
Cindy now questions if her relationship with Sam is REALLY over.
Often in a relationship, the final curtain is a break-up and not a marriage. But how do you know when your relationship is REALLY over?
1. You Are Incompatible
When you and your partner are not able to reach an agreement for a long-term plan, you're done.
Without a long-term agreement...there is no future.
I'm a big advocate for people staying in relationships for as long as possible. If you leave a relationship too early and don't get the lesson, you can bet you'll attract the exact same thing in the next relationship you enter.
However, if you and your partner are incompatible in your style of relationship and where you want to go together...it's REALLY over.
In Cindy's situation, her relationship with Sam is REALLY over.
2. The Relationship is Making You Sick
If you're getting sick, it's time to leave.
Or if your partner is violent and abusive...time to go!
If you need to call a cop a doctor or a lawyer...it's over.
Get out ASAP!
No relationship is worth sacrificing your health and your body. REALLY!
3. You Only Feel Apathy and Empathy
If you have no charge...
If you feel sorry for the poor bastard...
Or could care less what he does or does not do...
Or watching him chew turns your stomach...
It's over. You're done. REALLY. Move on.
4. He Wants to Remain Friends
Classic. He doesn't want you...but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either!
You cannot be friends with your lover until you both have new lovers first!
Why is that?
Because every time you see him, smell him or hear the sound of his voice, your body chemicals kick in and keep you physically glued!
No one else will look good to you. It will take you sooooo much longer to recover!
So unless you have children together or a business or some other endeavor that forces you to see each other, do your best to stay apart until your heart is healed!
Got it? Good.
Everything you need to know about having the romantic relationship you desire and much, much more is in The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course. Order your copy today!
Sunday, February 15, 2009
He's Just Not That Into You...Now What?
by Cherry Norris, "The Hollywood Dating Director"
It doesn't take a brain surgeon to diagnosis if a man isn't calling you...he's probably not into you.
In the romantic comedy, "He's Just Not That Into You", a film based on Greg Behrendt's popular self-help book, a gorgeous ensemble in various stages of relationships quest to find true love.
Although the film is fun to watch, it doesn't give you much tangible dating advice.
Like, if he's not into you...then what?
Or if he WAS into you but now he's not...what happened?
Or can you get him into you...and if so, how?
Here are three ideas:
1. If He's Not Into You...Then What?
Move on.
Like the book says...if he's not into you...don't waste your time.
Meaning if he's not calling, he's not pursuing, he's not inviting you out...you're on to "next"!
This is easier said than done.
Often you can't help replaying the date (or the relationship) over and over and over again in your head trying to analyze and figure out what happened and WHY isn't he into you. Especially when he acted so nice!
It's maddening.
Don't take it personally. Because it's not. He can't help who his body chooses.
Brush yourself off, go back out there and find someone who is into you!
2. He WAS Into You, but Now He's Not...What Happened?
If he was into you but now he's acting distant...
And calling you less...
And only inviting you over for a little late night booty...
Chances are something did happen.
Was it something you said? Maybe.
Was it something you did? Maybe.
My guess is if he was into you and now he's not...one of two things happened:
First, the guy pulled a "bait and switch". He baited you with compliments and attention, got you all sexually bonded and feeling good...then "switched" by stopping his pursuit and now sits back waiting for you to call to invite him over and basically do all the work.
(This is not a good guy...move on!)
Second, you started going competitive with him. You started making plans. You started taking over. You became the better man and he may have felt he couldn't offer you anything. And what he was giving you was not appreciated.
This is a good guy.
If you are dating a guy like this right now this minute, practice saying, "yes, thank you, please..." for everything he does for you. Everything!
3. Can You Get Him Into You? If So, How?
Maybe.
If you don't turn him on sexually...probably not.
If you do turn him on, you can guide him to be REALLY into you...if you know how! :)
You can keep him wanting you more and more. It takes ingenuity and skill. But you can cleverly guide a man to give, protect and cherish you like you'd never believe possible IF you know how to do it.
Women are the spiritual leaders on the planet. In general, men are more simple minded (not an insult...it's the way a man's brain is designed). When a woman knows how to artfully guide a man to become a better man, everybody wins.
And yes...not only will he be into you you, he will stay into you!
Sound good?
If so, everything you need to know and much, much more is in The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course. Start "getting him into you" by ordering your copy today!
It doesn't take a brain surgeon to diagnosis if a man isn't calling you...he's probably not into you.
In the romantic comedy, "He's Just Not That Into You", a film based on Greg Behrendt's popular self-help book, a gorgeous ensemble in various stages of relationships quest to find true love.
Although the film is fun to watch, it doesn't give you much tangible dating advice.
Like, if he's not into you...then what?
Or if he WAS into you but now he's not...what happened?
Or can you get him into you...and if so, how?
Here are three ideas:
1. If He's Not Into You...Then What?
Move on.
Like the book says...if he's not into you...don't waste your time.
Meaning if he's not calling, he's not pursuing, he's not inviting you out...you're on to "next"!
This is easier said than done.
Often you can't help replaying the date (or the relationship) over and over and over again in your head trying to analyze and figure out what happened and WHY isn't he into you. Especially when he acted so nice!
It's maddening.
Don't take it personally. Because it's not. He can't help who his body chooses.
Brush yourself off, go back out there and find someone who is into you!
2. He WAS Into You, but Now He's Not...What Happened?
If he was into you but now he's acting distant...
And calling you less...
And only inviting you over for a little late night booty...
Chances are something did happen.
Was it something you said? Maybe.
Was it something you did? Maybe.
My guess is if he was into you and now he's not...one of two things happened:
First, the guy pulled a "bait and switch". He baited you with compliments and attention, got you all sexually bonded and feeling good...then "switched" by stopping his pursuit and now sits back waiting for you to call to invite him over and basically do all the work.
(This is not a good guy...move on!)
Second, you started going competitive with him. You started making plans. You started taking over. You became the better man and he may have felt he couldn't offer you anything. And what he was giving you was not appreciated.
This is a good guy.
If you are dating a guy like this right now this minute, practice saying, "yes, thank you, please..." for everything he does for you. Everything!
3. Can You Get Him Into You? If So, How?
Maybe.
If you don't turn him on sexually...probably not.
If you do turn him on, you can guide him to be REALLY into you...if you know how! :)
You can keep him wanting you more and more. It takes ingenuity and skill. But you can cleverly guide a man to give, protect and cherish you like you'd never believe possible IF you know how to do it.
Women are the spiritual leaders on the planet. In general, men are more simple minded (not an insult...it's the way a man's brain is designed). When a woman knows how to artfully guide a man to become a better man, everybody wins.
And yes...not only will he be into you you, he will stay into you!
Sound good?
If so, everything you need to know and much, much more is in The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course. Start "getting him into you" by ordering your copy today!
Monday, February 2, 2009
Does He Juice You Up? (or Drain You Dry?)
by Cherry Norris, "The Hollywood Dating Director"
Look around you...
The guy you attracted on line. Does he juice you up or does he drain you dry by e-mailing and texting, but never inviting you out?
The man you're dating. Does he pick you up? Does he take you out? Does he make a plan? Does he juice you up or drain you dry?
The man you've been with. He was generous at first but now you're exhausted because you're giving too much. Does he still juice you up?
And while we're at it...
What about your girlfriends?
Or your family?
Or your job?
Do they juice you up...or do they drain you dry?
Currently, I'm a member of several masterminds. I joined these groups because I want to be around like-minded friends and colleagues who want to grow their businesses.
AND...I want to be around people who juice me up!
It's sweet.
It's refreshing.
It's invigorating.
And it just feels damn good to be with people who make you feel good about yourself!
In The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story, I talk about the importance of looking and feeling your best when you are dating and building relationships.
It's important to take care of yourself. In love. In life. And that means being around people who juice you up and stop being around people who don't.
Sometimes it's a date. You want him to call. You worry that he won't. You hate that you're thinking about it...this much. It's draining.
Sometimes it's a man. He wants you to do this and be that and to come and go there. (Or not.) (And that's a drain too!)
Sometimes it's a friend. She doesn't understand why you're going out on a date instead of hanging with her.
Sometimes it's your Mother. She expects you to be at the family dinner. Period.
Yes, your friends and family SAY they are supportive (and some really are), but there are those who don't want your relationship to change with them. Beware.
Find the people who fill you up and support you. Keep them!
Next time you're on a date (or with someone) ask yourself, "Does he/she juice me up or drain me dry?"
You'll know the answer.
If you want to learn exactly what to say and do with your friends and family so they can be in support of you and your romantic relationship...
Order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course today!
Look around you...
The guy you attracted on line. Does he juice you up or does he drain you dry by e-mailing and texting, but never inviting you out?
The man you're dating. Does he pick you up? Does he take you out? Does he make a plan? Does he juice you up or drain you dry?
The man you've been with. He was generous at first but now you're exhausted because you're giving too much. Does he still juice you up?
And while we're at it...
What about your girlfriends?
Or your family?
Or your job?
Do they juice you up...or do they drain you dry?
Currently, I'm a member of several masterminds. I joined these groups because I want to be around like-minded friends and colleagues who want to grow their businesses.
AND...I want to be around people who juice me up!
It's sweet.
It's refreshing.
It's invigorating.
And it just feels damn good to be with people who make you feel good about yourself!
In The Role of a Lifetime: How to Star in Your Own Love Story, I talk about the importance of looking and feeling your best when you are dating and building relationships.
It's important to take care of yourself. In love. In life. And that means being around people who juice you up and stop being around people who don't.
Sometimes it's a date. You want him to call. You worry that he won't. You hate that you're thinking about it...this much. It's draining.
Sometimes it's a man. He wants you to do this and be that and to come and go there. (Or not.) (And that's a drain too!)
Sometimes it's a friend. She doesn't understand why you're going out on a date instead of hanging with her.
Sometimes it's your Mother. She expects you to be at the family dinner. Period.
Yes, your friends and family SAY they are supportive (and some really are), but there are those who don't want your relationship to change with them. Beware.
Find the people who fill you up and support you. Keep them!
Next time you're on a date (or with someone) ask yourself, "Does he/she juice me up or drain me dry?"
You'll know the answer.
If you want to learn exactly what to say and do with your friends and family so they can be in support of you and your romantic relationship...
Order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course today!
Friday, January 30, 2009
Be My Date for Valentines?
February 14th is almost here and you know what that means!
Valentine's Day Drama!
(Eeeek Screeech!)
Are you anxious about having a date?
Do you scurry past restaurants filled with happy couples?
Do you ban with your girlfriends to celebrate Singles Awareness Day?
Or do you stay home and ignore the whole blah, damn thing? (Who needs it.)
If you are a Victim of Valentine's Day Drama, it's time for a New Direction!
Join me on a FREE LIVE tele-seminar!
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
6:30 p.m. PST
On this FREE call, we'll discuss:
· The Top 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever! (and other things you wish you'd known way back when!)
· How to Define Your Role in a romantic relationship so you eliminate confusion
· Set the Stage to attract EXACTLY who and what you want to attract
· Speak Your Part so you'll know exactly WHAT TO SAY in any dating situation
Be the STAR of your own Love Story!
CLICK HERE to register for this FREE tele-seminar now:
I can't wait to share with you some great ideas that will help you have the romantic relationship you desire! And we'll have a lot of fun in the process!
I look forward to seeing you on the call!
To Your Love Life!
Cherry Norris
The Hollywood Dating Director
P.S. Space is limited on this call! CLICK HERE to reserve your spot NOW!
Valentine's Day Drama!
(Eeeek Screeech!)
Are you anxious about having a date?
Do you scurry past restaurants filled with happy couples?
Do you ban with your girlfriends to celebrate Singles Awareness Day?
Or do you stay home and ignore the whole blah, damn thing? (Who needs it.)
If you are a Victim of Valentine's Day Drama, it's time for a New Direction!
Join me on a FREE LIVE tele-seminar!
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
6:30 p.m. PST
On this FREE call, we'll discuss:
· The Top 3 Most Important Dating Directions...Ever! (and other things you wish you'd known way back when!)
· How to Define Your Role in a romantic relationship so you eliminate confusion
· Set the Stage to attract EXACTLY who and what you want to attract
· Speak Your Part so you'll know exactly WHAT TO SAY in any dating situation
Be the STAR of your own Love Story!
CLICK HERE to register for this FREE tele-seminar now:
I can't wait to share with you some great ideas that will help you have the romantic relationship you desire! And we'll have a lot of fun in the process!
I look forward to seeing you on the call!
To Your Love Life!
Cherry Norris
The Hollywood Dating Director
P.S. Space is limited on this call! CLICK HERE to reserve your spot NOW!
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Do You Want Him to Respect You...or Cherish You?
by Cherry Norris, "The Dating Director"
"The most important thing is to have a man respect me!" Ellie proclaimed.
"Do you want a man to cherish your feelings?" I asked.
"Of course. I want that too," Ellie added.
"Fine. Stay single and take two lovers."
If you want to be respected and feel cherished in a romantic relationship, you'll need two partners.
One can respect your ideas and follow your lead. The other can cherish your feelings and make the plans.
See? You can have it all.
Just not at the same time.
Or with the same person.
(Unless he's a "doormat" who doesn't have a voice. Or is soooo spineless. Ewww.)
In a romantic relationship, the greatest intimacy is promoted when one partner feels cherished for feelings and the other is respected for thoughts.
If you want to be respected for your thinking AND cherished for your feelings, there is simply no space for another person.
When you Voluntarily give up your respectability in a romantic relationship it means you choose to have your feelings cherished over your thoughts respected and you are willing to follow your man as long as he's moral, ethical and legal.
This doesn't mean you can't be respected for your thoughts Ever...it just means you choose to have your feelings cherished first.
When a man cherishes your feelings, you'll actually feel respected.
(Think about that for a moment!)
When you don't feel good about something and you share your feelings with your man...and he "respects" your feelings...he's actually cherishing you! (Pretty cool, huh?)
When you give your thoughts to a man and he respects your ideas, guess what? You're the man! When a man respects what you think and want...you are the "Hero" of your relationship.
Many times you go competitive with your partner and you don't know why. The reason is because you both want to tell each other what to do...or you both wait for the other person to make the plan!
So when you're meeting a new man...or if you're already with someone...decide:
Do you want to be respected for your thoughts and leadership skills in your romantic relationship?
OR:
Do you want to be cherished for your feelings and are willing to voluntarily give up your lead and follow your respected partner?
If you want to learn exactly what to say and do to have a man cherish you (and know how to artfully guide him) in your romantic relationship...
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"The most important thing is to have a man respect me!" Ellie proclaimed.
"Do you want a man to cherish your feelings?" I asked.
"Of course. I want that too," Ellie added.
"Fine. Stay single and take two lovers."
If you want to be respected and feel cherished in a romantic relationship, you'll need two partners.
One can respect your ideas and follow your lead. The other can cherish your feelings and make the plans.
See? You can have it all.
Just not at the same time.
Or with the same person.
(Unless he's a "doormat" who doesn't have a voice. Or is soooo spineless. Ewww.)
In a romantic relationship, the greatest intimacy is promoted when one partner feels cherished for feelings and the other is respected for thoughts.
If you want to be respected for your thinking AND cherished for your feelings, there is simply no space for another person.
When you Voluntarily give up your respectability in a romantic relationship it means you choose to have your feelings cherished over your thoughts respected and you are willing to follow your man as long as he's moral, ethical and legal.
This doesn't mean you can't be respected for your thoughts Ever...it just means you choose to have your feelings cherished first.
When a man cherishes your feelings, you'll actually feel respected.
(Think about that for a moment!)
When you don't feel good about something and you share your feelings with your man...and he "respects" your feelings...he's actually cherishing you! (Pretty cool, huh?)
When you give your thoughts to a man and he respects your ideas, guess what? You're the man! When a man respects what you think and want...you are the "Hero" of your relationship.
Many times you go competitive with your partner and you don't know why. The reason is because you both want to tell each other what to do...or you both wait for the other person to make the plan!
So when you're meeting a new man...or if you're already with someone...decide:
Do you want to be respected for your thoughts and leadership skills in your romantic relationship?
OR:
Do you want to be cherished for your feelings and are willing to voluntarily give up your lead and follow your respected partner?
If you want to learn exactly what to say and do to have a man cherish you (and know how to artfully guide him) in your romantic relationship...
Order The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star in Your Own Love Story Home Study Course today!
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